The right thing to do when we come accross people who, for a reason or another, don’t respect us and treat us badly- without even saying why,what makes them act like that- is to just cut them off our lives, immediately. If the person is available to discuss in an open manner and just tell us what’s their problem with us, if we can resolve things with a good communication, and then have a serene relationship, then it’s ok. BUT if the person continues to be aggressive and especially if it comes to physical violence… RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN. If cyvilized communication doesn’t work, I don’t see what can work, and I don’t see the point on wasting years of our existence getting abused day after day. I almost can’t believe it myself, but I’ve been there. I have waisted 10 years of my life with people who treated me horribly. I let them do that for many reasons. I had a very taugh life, people always left me or disliked me. I don’t seem to manage to get anyone to stay with me or be around me. They just don’t like me, that’s the conclusion I get in the end. Even if I seem to be a cute, educated person. There’s probably something about me that doesn’t convince them, and long-term, makes them be aggressive. I’ve experienced that many times. The problem with taking a lot of aggressivity is that it ruines your self-esteem, at least it did that to me. Deep down, I don’t feel like me or my life has any true value. And as we know, some man are like stupid children: if they sense a lack of self-esteem in you, they’ll treat you like hell. I just can’t believe how idiots they can be or become, when they feel that we are somehow weak, or needy. It’s such a stupid paradox: we long to get into a relationship because we want and need to be loved and protected. And that’s exactly what the partner don’t understand and doesn’t give. I suggest to anyone, before getting in a relationship, to resolve their own mental or emotional problems. You must be healthy if you want to be with someone healthy, or at least- be willing to work with yourself and heal. Otherwise, things won’t work. Heal yourself first, and then get involved with someone that you totally like and feel you can discuss and be yourself with, at any time and hour of the day. It’s very hard, there are lots of challenges… otherwise, just find your deep value and satisfaction by getting a pet, getting involved socially etc. There are many things we can be also without a partner, in the end. What matters is that you truly be fine and in peace and good with yourself.
