Such a great post. Yes, we experience things like that every day... I have an Italian "boyfriend" who used me, made 100 promises to marry me, then kicked me out of the house after yelling at me with all sort of violence and manipulations. As a result, I got sick, and he's refusing to help me in any way, I could just die and he wouldn't care. It is actually very important to get to know someone in time, get to know them little by little and test if they are worthy of trust and commitment.